Tips for Writing a Memorial

A memorial should be as unique as the person being honored. Above all, it should express how that person touched the lives of others. Those who receive the message should come away with an emotional connection, an understanding, an appreciation – and, perhaps, an inspiration for their own lives.

Writing a memorial has no standard format or method but it has conventions to make sure your piece is appropriate. You may use your personal writing style and inject humor as long as it is delivered appropriately to avoid offense to other family and friends. Here are some tips:

  • Describe your relationship with the deceased. State how you are related, how you met and became closer. Include events that you shared together so others can take a peek at your personal memories with them.
  • Describe the features that make the person unique, such as mannerisms and attitudes. Also include their interests, role models they looked up to, people or events that influenced them, and how he or she inspired you and others. Additionally you may want to elaborate by sharing a story.
  • Be straightforward and divide the information into small paragraphs so it will be easy to read on. Read the piece out loud to know if it has a smooth flow. Proofread - eliminate repetitions and correct grammatical or factual errors.

Writing a memorial for someone close to you is no easy task. Grief will always be there but instead of internalizing it, why not express it. You do not need to be a great writer to have a great memorial. You just have to be sincere in telling your story. You are allowed to write it in a conversational tone. Many will appreciate it because it will make your memorial easier to understand yet heartfelt. The most important thing is, it comes from the heart.